I suck when it comes to talking to women, why do they seem like there from another planet?

Well, for one thing, learn to spell “they’re” (conjuction between they and are). Most women I know like smart guys. Be one.
Women are from Venus, men are from Mars. Didn’t anyone tell you?
I’m not joking. There’s a very good book. Look it up on Amazon. It would probably help you understand. Women are as if they were from another planet! The book is Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray. You can also find it on audible.com.
Understand your enemy and your enemy will become your friend.