My best friend is dating a guy who I think is gay. Should I say something?

I’m not 100% sure that he is gay but I have a feeling that he is. One of the reasons is because I found in me Instagram’s feed that he likes many pictures of shirtless men. Should I tell my bf about it? (For the record, I have nothing against gay men, I’m just worried that my bf might get hurt)

He may just be wanting to have great abs and looks up to men that have them.

If he’s dating her and they’re having sexual relations then he’s not gay. He could be bisexual, meaning a person attracted to either sex, but a purely gay person wouldn’t have interest in dating her, only being her friend.

Now if he is bisexual, that doesn’t mean a bisexual person can’t have a monogamous relationship with someone of the opposite sex, or even of the same sex.

She doesn’t need you to protect her. This person isn’t any more likely to hurt her than anyone else might.

That being said, my wife points out that a gay person might date a heterosexual person just to avoid being identified as a gay person (due to fear and stigma), putting off sex “until later”. Although that is very rare, when it ultimately comes time for sex he may keep stalling and stalling, causing strain in the relationship.

Author: Wayne Boyd

Wayne Edward Boyd was born in Morristown, New Jersey in 1953. He is a published author, former ISKCON sannyasi, and traveler, having lived on 3 continents and visited 37 countries. He presently lives in Amarillo, Texas working as a correctional officer and has interests in photography, political science and astronomy.

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